Anatomy of a Boyfriend (Anatomy #1)

Anatomy of a Boyfriend is one of the most honest books I've read out there that deals with the main character's sex life. In addition to being honest, Daria Snadowsky manages to write a story that is painfully realistic when it comes to love, sex, and relationships.

I read this one the first time when it came out in paperback in 2008, so it was interesting to do a reread again now before I went on to read its sequel.

While I wouldn't say Anatomy of a Boyfriend is overly grapic, Daria Snadowsky does not hold back or drop the black curtain when it comes to sex scenes like many books of the genre do. The scenes in the book don't cross the "line". It is one of those books that I think a lot of teens could benefit from - it lays out information from them that they may want. I love the realistic portrayals of relationships not only between Dom and Wesley, but also Amy and her different conquests.

Readers get a pretty real constant stream of consciousness from Dom - we she thinks, you know. I loved that real - again it is another instant where there really is no barrier between the reader and the story. Anatomy of a Boyfriend really is one of those honest, real books that I would recommend for teens to read.

What I Loved:
I'm not sure what to call Anatomy of a Boyfriend. I'm sure most people would not stick it under the New Adult heading, because of the rather graphic nature of the sex involved and the fact that Dom is in college for roughly the last third of it. Honestly, though, it reads like a young adult novel to me, and it's not like teens wouldn't be having some or all of these experiences. However, I'm mentioning the detailed descriptions of sex up front, so that readers who are not comfortable with that are full informed. Personally, I really like Snadowsky's take on teenage sexual relationships and first love.

Dominique, more commonly known as Dom, has always been the studious type to her best friend Amy's boy crazy type. Dom doesn't really understand why Amy is willing to hook up with random guys, but she's also not particularly judgmental about it either. Dom and Amy really care about one another and maintain a strong friendship throughout, even if they're not the focal point of the story.

Dom's never really even been strongly interested in someone until she meets Wes. Something about him sets her teenage hormones ablaze, and they quickly strike up a friendship, emailing and IMing. Much to her frustration, though, the relationship doesn't go anywhere. She spends a lot of time talking with Amy on the phone, unpacking the latest messages for deeper meaning.This Snadowsky got just right, as I know I've been there and so have all of my female friends.

Once they do strike up a romantic relationship, things accelerate swiftly physically. Both virgins, they move through the bases at a fairly fast clip. What I really love about Snadowsky's take on this is that she doesn't spare them any awkwardness or pain. Unlike most fiction, there's not a simultaneous orgasm to be found within these pages; the sex is not romanticized. The depiction of sex is very realistic and descriptive about most basic sexual behaviors, and while it's perhaps more detailed than some parents might want their teens reading, I think it's much more honest and likely to make a teen think things through than the fade to black scenes that suggest perfection. Plus, Dom is always very careful about using protection, which is a very good message to send, and one often left out of fictional sex scenes. Snadowsky also does an admirable job depicting the emotional arc of their relationship.

What Left Me Wanting More:
Unfortunately, I often found the writing awkward, like Snadowsky hasn't quite manage to simulate teen speech patterns. For example, their AIM messages are all fully written out in paragraphs with punctuation and capitalization. Every single one. Some teens do write everything out, as I know I tended to, and Wes and Dom are likely to have done that. However, I don't think anyone consistently sent everything in a big paragraph. Generally IMs were no longer than a sentence or two, so that struck me as very strange. Also, at one point, during a breakup, someone says "'I'm going to have to change my status to "single" on MySpace now'" (233). This book was published in 2007, and, by then, it definitely would have been Facebook. That reference might not have been outdated when the book was written, but certainly was by publication, and is laughable now.

In part because of the occasionally awkward writing, I never really bonded with Dom. She's smart and all, but the amount of time she spent focused on Wes seemed a bit excessive, though I've never been the most romantic girl, so maybe that's realistic for people who aren't me. The biggest thing that distanced me from Dom was her jealousy...of Wes' dog, Jessica. She thinks some seriously mean thoughts about that dog, and, as an animal lover, I could not deal with that. I mean, they're heat of the moment thoughts, but they kept me from loving Dom. She also was generally overeager about things. The first time she's invited to Wes' house, for example, she asks to see his family photo albums, and they weren't romantically involved at this point. That seemed highly odd to me.

The Final Verdict:
Though imperfect, I devoured Anatomy of a Boyfriend, and I really appreciate its frank depiction of sexual exploration and coming of age. I'm very excited to see where Snadowsky goes in the sequel, Anatomy of a Single Girl, which I'm starting next.

Dominique Baylor is a senior in high school who has never had a boyfriend. She has zero experience with boys, but thats never really bothered her. Her best friend Amy has enough hookups for the both of them. Dom has always thought it would be strange to kiss a boy that you had no feelings for. In medical and anatomical terms, Dom knows everything there is to know about boys. Yet shes never had a real relationship with one. For her seventeen years, Dominique has just never met a boy that she was really truly interested in.

Then she met Wesley. Wesley Gershwin. Star track runner at her best friends high school. Its not just his good looks that attract Dominique, but his sweet smile and shy demeanor. She falls for him more quickly than she could ever imagine, and soon they are close friends, emailing each other on a daily basis. But Dom wants so much more. After pining after Wesley for weeks, and imagining him as her boyfriend, she finally gets her wish! The two of them are nearly inseparable, talking on the phone for hours each night and Dom is always counting down the minutes until she can see her sweetheart again.

Dom has never been somebodys girlfriend before, and it gives her this amazing feeling of being loved. Wes and Dom are both each others first loves, and they share so many firsts together. Dom is confident that even though Wesley is going to NYU and shes going to Tulane for college, they will be able to keep a long-distance relationship alive. But the first semester of college is a lot different than she could have expected, and their relationship just isnt the same anymore.

Daria Snadowsky holds nothing back in Anatomy of a Boyfriend. The book is a play by play of Dominique and Wesleys relationship. From their first meeting to their parting words. All girls will be able to relate to Doms feelings about boys, even if they havent suffered a serious heartbreak. I could relate to Doms confusion about whether Wesley liked her or not when they were in their just friends stage. It is clear to see Judy Blumes influence on Snadowsky from the loving way that she handles her characters. Im surprised that this is her first book, because Daria Snadowsky does such an amazing job of portraying Dom, that I felt like her best friend that she confided everything to.